Day 16: A Letter to someone. To Anyone.
Your courage is unfathomable. The decision to engage in this journey is something I must say terrifying but you decided to cross its path. I admire you.
I know sometimes you wonder how you got in this interesting place. It might be a loved one moved, a friendly online chat became so much more from you expected; you met a tourist that changed everything. There are so many starts and stories. however, none of us called it to come this far. I salute you for choosing the more difficult path; a road less travelled; a situation easily judged and misunderstood.
To you, don’t listen to other people’s opinion. You might heard it all from, “LDR is not a real relationship” to, “It’s not going to work.” to more painful as, “Please stop these nonesense” as if your feelings are invalid and are not real. Do not listent to them. Do not let people put garbage in your ears. Relationship have many different colors and LDR is one of them. They don’t have the right to tell you it’s not going to work because at the end of the day, it’s between you and your partner. It’s up to you if it’s going work.
Listen to the voice inside you. Then you will know if this is worth fighting, if this is what you really want. You have to decide for youself, not being influenced by other people. More than anyone, you know your situation best and your judgements will matter.
In times of loneliness, in times of beating the time difference feels like a lost cause, in times texting, calling and even skyping won’t help your longing, persevere. There are days you would want someone to come home to, hug when things start falling apart. In these times, stay strong. Your partner feels the same way and if he/she is willing to put up with the situation, you can endure everything for them as well.
This is the time to assess yourself; be independent; building yourself up to be better. You have to be strong not only for you but your partner, the relationship and the future you both seamingly want to achieve.
In times of seeing each other for vacation, enjoy it. Spend every moment with your partner and stop thinking about your job, etc. Your partner deserves your undivided attention. In times of saying goodbye, know that there will always be a new hello that comes after it.
Know, how cliché may it sound, that there will always be the light at the end of the tunnel. There are so many success stories of LDR, focus on them rather than the others that didn’t work.
Remember, Distance is not for the weak, it’s not for those who easily get dishearted. You will make it. The distance will end. It’s up to you and your partner to fight it and over come.
I wish you well and all the happiness you deserve.